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Old March 25th, 2008, 09:53 PM
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Re: Mom and Daughter advice needed

Originally Posted by KayKay View Post
I, uh.... I'd better let you explain this before I react to it. When you say "control" her, do you mean "trying to use the car to make her get her act together and grow up and be independent"? It seems to me that's not the type of control she sees it as.

I haven't changed my mind. Sell the car, let her make her own mistakes, be there to help her pick up the pieces of the train wreck if there is one.

Don't worry about what his M is saying. It's not a contest to see who can influence them more. You're right, she's telling you to leave them alone when she's not doing it. But your DD will figure that out (hopefully her BF will figure it out too).

I know you're trying to do the right thing. It's hard, isn't it?
I took it as that line about controlling her was what the other people meddling in the situation thought. Not that MM was thinking she could. I thought she was expecting the daughter to be responsible for the payments or the car. Not that she wanted to use it like a carrot or a prod. to get her to do her bidding.

Is that what you meant MM?
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