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Old March 3rd, 2015, 09:36 AM
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Re: Cut ties with sisters but they won't give up

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Should I just be nice and smile or avoid contact and stay away from them as much as I can? I don't want to give the impression that all is good when they aren't. I am really tired of them inserting themselves in places that they should not! I am so tired of this circus!
Go and be distantly polite. You do not want other people around you to be uncomfortable. Should you end up in the same group, make a polite greeting then excuse yourself for some other reason. Otherwise, avoid them.

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I am trying my hardest to not influence my girls about them. Before all of this started they ignored my girls, now they are texting them all the time! My youngest sees them for who they are but my oldest craves attention so she's allowing it. They will hurt her the same way they hurt me. Please know that the have not had much of a relationship with them through the years.
How old is your oldest? I think you are making a mistake by not being open about how untrustworthy they are. As a parent, it's your job to help them identify people who are not "safe." If your oldest is an adult, though, she may have to learn on her own. Be kind and help her to pick up the pieces. (((hugs)))
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Re: Cut ties with sisters but they won't give up

My girls are 22 and 24.
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Re: Cut ties with sisters but they won't give up

Good luck! Your daughters are old enough to make up their own minds and you can ask for their support for you through this.

If your sisters were close to your ex FiL, they have the right to be there, just smile and nod at them.
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Re: Cut ties with sisters but they won't give up

... and if they weren't close - still smile and nod



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