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Old March 22nd, 2013, 04:04 PM
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Question ? too old to drive?

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has anyone ever talked/needed to talk to the adult children of a senior citizen who most likely should not be driving?
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Old March 22nd, 2013, 04:53 PM
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Re: ? too old to drive?

Well, yes and no. The father of a coworker of mine drove longer than he should have. Everyone knew he should hang up the keys but if anyone brought it up to him he brushed it off. Coworker said they didn't know how to get him to stop. He'd say it was okay for him to drive because he'd only be hurting himself if he crashed. They were finally able to get him to see that wasn't true and if he crashed he could seriously hurt innocent people.
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Old March 22nd, 2013, 07:20 PM
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Re: ? too old to drive?

We had a neighbor who should not have been driving. We talked to her adult daughter who already knew it. They finally talked to the doctor.
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Re: ? too old to drive?

You could talk to me until you were blue in the face, but there is no way i could get my mother to stop driving, as she has zero understanding of personal responsibility. I'm hoping she will lose her licence for speeding, and it won't be an issue any more.

What's happened in your situation?
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Old March 30th, 2013, 02:34 PM
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Re: ? too old to drive?

I'm planning on talking with the police & seeing what they recomend. I've sat on it, wondering if I should stay out of it


My biggest fear is that "Marge" will seriously injure/kill someone - and if something does happen & I didn't even try to "fix" it
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Re: ? too old to drive?

I didn't talk to the police felt I'd come across as interfering/not doing the rational thing of talking to the adult kids first


DH encouraged me to talk to ex ... so I did. I told him everything that his DM had done, and that I was very worried as our neighbor's DH had been killed in an accident - driving the wrong way on a divided highway & that recently in the news there'd been a guy who didn't want to lose his freedom/stop driving when he should have (AND the family knew it), he ended up running over a lady & her baby and the bay was killed.

Ex said that he'd have time to visit him DM this summer & would get her to drive him somewhere ... we also discussed the fact that she may need to be formally/professionally evaluated by a driving instructor.
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Re: ? too old to drive?

Well that's good, snafu. I think you handled that well!
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Re: ? too old to drive?

I agree with Kaykay, Snafu.

I think a relative of mine has to resort to actually confiscating the keys to their parents car as they were never going to give up driving.
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