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Old January 4th, 2018, 02:17 AM
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One way relationship

I feel I am always the one keeping in touch, supporting, listening etc with my friends and they donít seem to care about me... to the point i tested it. 5 years ago I stopped contacting 3 of them and they have not really been in touch with me since. I am hurt but feeling better than having just a one way relationship.
I miss them too cause they were great. On an other hand I have more precious time for myself, but feel lonely. My question is how to build a balance relationship?
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Old January 4th, 2018, 05:50 AM
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My question is how to build a balance relationship?
You have to be very careful about how you categorize the people you spend your time with. Good friends are rare and building the relationships take a long time. They go through a pattern which very much looks like romantic relationships: you meet and like each other, want to hang out all the time, then imperfections become apparent, you get on each other's nerves or hurt feelings, and then make the decision-- is this friendship worth working through the disagreements? When you work through them, and learn to trust that you will be supportive of each other even through the tough times, then you have a good balanced relationship.

The people you were spending time with before weren't really friends. They were people you did fun things with. You didn't make it past the point where imperfections were apparent. You can still hang out with people who aren't your best friends-- that will be the majority of the world-- and have a good time.
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