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Old December 21st, 2017, 06:48 AM
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sigh.... I'm trying (note trying) to think positively



Anyway - its that time of year when DS prefers his dad's family & I'm realizing that if/when he has a family I'll most likely never see DS (or his family) for the holidays ....
Don't borrow trouble, snafu. I understand that this would worry you, but don't dwell on the future. Definitely do something to care for yourself.
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Old December 23rd, 2017, 07:01 AM
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Re: need help dealing

Y'all are right. I need to quit catasraphising (can't spell).

I also need to make more time to do fun things with DS.
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I also need to make more time to do fun things with DS.
One of the things I found about my boys was that they were/are not at all interested in doing anything with me, fun or otherwise. They do, however, love knowing that I am around and reliable. They can call on me when they want my help, but they definitely don't call me when they want to have fun.

Truth is, it does hurt my feelings to know I'm not the fun parent. If I sat at home and did nothing, I'm afraid I'd turn into my mother. I have to take care of myself. So I have been working on reconnecting with old friends and making new ones. So far, it's working out.

Maybe this strategy will work for you, too?

Anyway, I wish you peace this Christmas and Happy New Year!
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Re: need help dealing

arg....

DS slept through plans - I let him know how disappoint I was


been talking quite a bit with DS & telling him stuff (as it comes up) that I used to do....DS is / as I'm his "more responsible" bio-parent
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Re: need help dealing

DS wants to hang out with me and talk - but we need to be doing something, ex. road trip/driving, organizing the basement, etc.
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