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Old November 17th, 2020, 05:54 AM
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Pressure to be generous?

My workplace does a giving tree managed by VIPs. They like to be very generous and so they have a quota and expect/demand donations from the employees to meet those quotas.

We decided as a family that we would donate cash to the local food pantry this year because food and heat are needs; toys are wants.

But now I'm feeling very pressured to supply expensive toys at work.

Do I give in to the expectations to maintain a good relationship with the VIP? Or stick to my family agreement?

Have you ever had an experience with other people being generous with your money?
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Old November 17th, 2020, 01:06 PM
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Re: Pressure to be generous?

I've not been pressured to donate (by people I know-by solicitations - oh yeah - some didn't want to take no for an answer)


I don't know Lucy - being "forced" would leave a bad taste in my mouth.
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Old November 25th, 2020, 02:21 PM
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Re: Pressure to be generous?

I would stick to the family agreement, because as you've said food and heat are needs.
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Old November 27th, 2020, 08:33 PM
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Re: Pressure to be generous?

Lucy, update?
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Lucy, update?
I do work in a location that values those political connections, so I felt obligated to participate. Normally, I wouldn't give in to the pressure. However, I think I found the win/win. I looked at the list and we are buying *necessities* for some older children. The balance will go to the original food pantry.
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I do work in a location that values those political connections, so I felt obligated to participate. Normally, I wouldn't give in to the pressure. However, I think I found the win/win. I looked at the list and we are buying *necessities* for some older children. The balance will go to the original food pantry.
that's good, at least you know that you helped and not feel that you were pressured
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