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Old November 28th, 2017, 01:44 PM
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Re: Son moved back home - DDIL kicked him out

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Re: Son moved back home - DDIL kicked him out

I am Switzerland, I am Switzerland...

However, my DH said to DS as he left this AM for work - "call your wife and apologize"

Evidently DH is part of the UN.

Perhaps in the next few days; sanctions?
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Re: Son moved back home - DDIL kicked him out

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Evidently DH is part of the UN.

Perhaps in the next few days; sanctions?


Ah, but Switzerland probably realizes an apology isn't what DDIL needs. If DDIL says your DS needs an epiphany, it sounds like she needs behavior to change going forward.

All is not lost. The UN maintains offices in Geneva.
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Re: Son moved back home - DDIL kicked him out

DDIL texted me - about a shopping trip - no mention of DS.

I kinda wanna know what happened - but I don't want to think ill of either of them. OR take sides.. being Switzerland is difficult at times.

I understand that there was an attempt to speak with DDIL - but the reach-out was rebuffed.

sigh. I just don't want things around here getting too comfortable - you know?

We haven't said anything to DS sibling - thoughts on that?
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It's not your news to tell. Let him tell it when and how he wants to tell it.

If DDIL wants to go shopping, go. If she brings up the situation, and you can listen actively without giving your opinion or getting emotionally involved, listen. If you can't (I know I couldn't), then simply tell her that you know she needs to talk, but you're too close to the situation to listen.

The reach-out may have been rebuffed because DDIL wants to see ACTION, no more talk. But, you are Switzerland do you're not judging what they are doing.

You can, however, set up rules for your DS. If he's boarding there, then he should be treated like a boarder. How much is he paying for room and board?
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DS went home!

DS went home - DDIL and I didn't go shopping. I am hoping that they are working on their relationship.

If he was going to be home longer than a week, I would charge like 50 bucks or so a week.

As a side note, I found a letter that this DS wrote in his HS senior year. It was hilarious from the fact he didn't want his Mom and Dad to charge him rent..

I agree with you - it's not my story to tell. It would appear to be gossip versus news.
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DS went home? Yay!!! I hope it works out for them.
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Me too - so far so good.
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