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Old February 21st, 2013, 10:22 PM
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Okay so I started having sex two weeks ago, so I'm really new to it...<snip>...

I wait almost 21 years and all I got out of it was being super inexperienced and not knowing what I like...which is frustrating both of us. Even from the past decade that I've been having "alone time" almost regularly, I still don't know what I like. What is wrong with me?

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Old February 21st, 2013, 11:41 PM
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Re: Need help...

This is a family orientated site. As such it does attract a lot of minors and therefore adult content is restricted. Please consider either editing your post to remove the inappropriate content or delete it altogether.

I would post this at a site for adults only.

FWIW, if your boyfriend genuinely cares for and loves you, he will be patient and. work with you, without showing any frustration!
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Old February 22nd, 2013, 04:11 AM
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Re: Need help...

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This is a family orientated site. As such it does attract a lot of minors and therefore adult content is restricted. Please consider either editing your post to remove the inappropriate content or delete it altogether.

I would post this at a site for adults only.

FWIW, if your boyfriend genuinely cares for and loves you, he will be patient and. work with you, without showing any frustration!
Well said on all counts!

This will sound old-fashioned, but I truly believe it.

The best experiences are NOT physical or mechanical. Popular culture is putting out that unrealistic expectation. Intimacy is best experienced in a long-term committed relationship with a person who loves you. It takes years (decades!) to really learn (and be comfortable with) how to give yourself and to receive. That takes such a level of trust, and you don't have that in 2 weeks. In the case of authentic lifetime relationships, you never stop learning what brings you both pleasure. Without that love and trust of another person, all experiences will ultimately leave you feeling unsatisfied and lonely.

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Old February 22nd, 2013, 09:03 AM
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beautifully put, Lucy!
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Old February 23rd, 2013, 09:23 PM
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Re: Need help...

Oh okay, sorry didn't mean to break the rules! And thanks for y'alls help, I'll just try to talk to him soon.
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Old February 27th, 2013, 09:27 AM
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Re: Need help...

Great post Lucy!!!

Also OP, you have to assume that you are completely new at this and have 0 experience.

It's like anything else you do, Takes time to learn etc.
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