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Old September 28th, 2012, 08:38 PM
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poor conversational skills

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I've recently realized that my conversational skills have atrophied


I frequently catch myself, in an attempt to "connect" with a conversation, talking about my experiences. hmpff - I am frustrated with myself

any ideas on how to practice active listening skills?
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Old September 29th, 2012, 01:07 AM
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Re: poor conversational skills

Bite your lips together and sit on your hands!

ATM I am all consumed with my experiences - only with good close friends and i have to work hard to take a step back and listen to their experiences. That's partly why I want to teain in counselling skills, to help me listen more!
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Old September 29th, 2012, 05:08 AM
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Re: poor conversational skills

I also do that. I've gone from a good listener to a talker. I do it mostly around new people; it's a coping mechanism because I'm so shy. Being conscious of that goes a long way. When you catch yourself relating your experience, you can say, "Oh, sorry! Tell me more about your experience."
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Old September 29th, 2012, 11:46 AM
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I can only offer sympathy, not advise as well.
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Old September 30th, 2012, 01:29 PM
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Re: poor conversational skills

I'm trying to ask people more about what they are saying - I did well today.
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Re: poor conversational skills

If you have really poor conversational skills, you need to build up some confidence in your personalities. After that need to some tricks and tacts about how to interact with others in a better and effective way. Some communication lessons could also help your way.
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Re: poor conversational skills

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I've recently realized that my conversational skills have atrophied


I frequently catch myself, in an attempt to "connect" with a conversation, talking about my experiences. hmpff - I am frustrated with myself

any ideas on how to practice active listening skills?
How to Practice Active Listening
Really listening to others can be a wonderful and vital skill to help foster your friendships or any relationship. Active listening can help you to better understand those in your life and improve the quality of your relationships. You can learn to practice active listening with the following few steps.
1.Consciously schedule or set aside time when you next have a conversation with someone so you will not be rushed or hurried. Be realistic about how long you need and avoid scheduling anything to close to your time with that person.
2.Review what you know about this person and what they are talking about in your head silently while they are speaking. Keep a mental list of things you want to talk about or inquire about when they finish speaking.
3.Ensure that you are in a quiet and comfortable area during your conversation. Make sure the person you are talking to is comfortable, and be receptive to the person.
4.Continue to focus on what the other person is saying. Give non-verbal cues for understanding like nodding or, if you don't understand, frowning to help them know if you are understanding what they are saying.
5.Respond to questions if you are elicited to do so. Find a natural pause in their speech to interject and ask them if they were finished before you interrupt.
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Re: poor conversational skills

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2.Review what you know about this person and what they are talking about in your head silently while they are speaking. Keep a mental list of things you want to talk about or inquire about when they finish speaking.
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5.Respond to questions if you are elicited to do so. Find a natural pause in their speech to interject and ask them if they were finished before you interrupt.
Bad advice!

Active listening means listening, not thinking about what you are going to say next! And it certainly doesn't mean trying to find a place to interrupt! What a way to "drum up" business!
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Re: poor conversational skills

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Bad advice!

Active listening means listening, not thinking about what you are going to say next! And it certainly doesn't mean trying to find a place to interrupt! What a way to "drum up" business!
Lucy, Why are you being so negative and judgmental? Why don't you give someone a chance before going for the throat, and alienating them?
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Old June 8th, 2013, 04:43 AM
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Re: poor conversational skills

baglady .... someone who choses a name like "divorcelawyers" comes across as a "spammer" (names like "travelcheap" does too)
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