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Old October 11th, 2009, 03:47 PM
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Re: So on the theme of avoidance versus polite contact....

I am so sorry about your loss.

Right now, you are very fragile and tender, probably experiencing an array of emotions, and this dinner may only amplify the things that are going on in your life. As much as you would like to be there for your husband, I do not think that it would be wise to attend this upcoming family function even if it is just a simple dinner, because you are not ready (even though you may think that you are). Most families have conversations over dinner and you do not want to risk the chance of hearing your MIL or anyone else there making a sly comment to upset you or offend you. And God forbid that they say something about your miscarriage. That is a topic too sensitive to talk about. How would you react if they did try to talk about? Not only will you feel uncomfortable, but you will be hurt, angry, sad and end up having the worst dinner in your life.

So, skip this gathering. Instead, order carry-out, rent some movies, and curl up on the sofa. Hubby should stay with you since this is a much more fragile time in both your lives BUT if he has to go then so be it. Your health comes first.

God Bless.

Last edited by LadyLove; October 11th, 2009 at 03:50 PM.
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