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snafu September 25th, 2019 06:09 PM

bad daughter reprise
I know (in my head, but not in my heart) that I'm not a bad daughter, I'm human.

I want to "resign" as being the responsible adult "child" for when things go "south" for DM....and DH has done a lot when DM has ended up needing the ER.

I'm fed up with "dueling" parts of DM's care team (at the hospital) wanting different things in order for DM to be released. The constant merry-go-round of

-she's ready to go home vs she's not

-she's being released today vs she's not

-she's needs rehab vs she doesn't

I'm just f'in' sick of it :mad:

...and then there's DM's expectations/needs :eek:

LucyVanPelt September 25th, 2019 06:59 PM

Re: bad daughter reprise
I'm sorry, snafu. Being stuck in the middle of all of this is hard. :(

snafu September 26th, 2019 10:05 PM

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I think part of my current issues is related to I'm currently working both a full time and a part time job. There's only so much of me to go around.

snafu July 9th, 2020 10:33 PM

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DM needs more help than I'm available to give....much less I'm not going to take on more. My time and energy just aren't enough to meet her needs (plus I'm having some issues of my own)

I have some guilt for telling mom she needs to hire someone, however I know I need to take care of myself first.

snafu July 24th, 2020 06:34 PM

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DM doesn't want to pay for help.... I've told her she needs to get something in place and that I'm not doing it after August.

snafu August 4th, 2020 03:46 PM

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She got somebody (happy dance)

She's texted me about my birthday:)

(Normally, she only contacts me for errands/demands)

I may get my mom "back". I want to spend time enjoying being with my mom, not just being her gofer.

cloudnine September 27th, 2020 10:15 PM

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Everything will fall into place

snafu October 18th, 2020 01:58 PM

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Last time I visited her she actually had a conversation with me :)

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