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my DM relayed this to me

my OS called and informed (not asked) her daughters (one of whom is married, another is separated w/kids) that she'd made reservations for Easter Lunch and that they were to be at _______ at 12:30. OS has been told "no" by at least 1 of her kids.



(this is the sib who I think is a narcissist)

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Not knowing all the details of the situation, on the one hand it could be OK, *if* it were an invitation that had some flexibility and wiggle room, as in this is where we'll be and when, we'd love it if you could join us, but we understand you may have other obligations. On the other hand, you said your sibling (OS = oldest sister, right?) might be a narcissist, so there must be trouble in there somewhere.

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OS didn't ask .... She told them....

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I missed this.

How did OS react to the 'no?"

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Was there any fall-out?

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oops -


OS tried to get her oldest DD to change plans/kids schedules to fit what she wanted

to paraphrase that DD (who later told grandma (my DM) about it) her mom wants to look good, otherwise she can't be bothered

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Should I remind my DM of this?

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Nope. :)

She either remembers or is willfully forgetting. Let it be.