Re: Overindulged the grandkids.
 

Oh well... Guess we'll have to settle for Taco Bell. LOL

I think you can figure out a way to be there for the grandkids when they need you, yet let your son know his definition of responsibility and behavior to it is not appropriate for a father.

Update!
 

Well, my DS got engaged last night. I did know this was about to happen but now I am a little surprised they are saying the tentative date is on Easter, April 1st!

What this means is I will be (hopefully) OUT OF HIS FINANCES forever. They will get a joint account and they will either sink or swim together, financially.

As I said before, she is NOT the type to let utility bills go unpaid, I hate to keep bringing it up, but to me that is an extreme show of irresponsibility for a single father with half time custody of his children. So I really believe that some things will be much better after they are married. It is funny how this thread got a little side tracked into the back issues as I really started it based on the scene that happened over me getting the kids "too much stuff" for Christmas. Anyway, thanks to you all for listening and providing thoughtful insights and understanding! (and maybe even a little tough love).

Re: Update!
 

You are very welcome! I hope you'll stay around and help others with your own insights and understanding, and the tough love!

Congratulations to your son. I wish you all the best of luck.

Re: Overindulged the grandkids.
 

Congratulations! Good luck with it all, rattlesnake. :D I am delighted that his fiancée will take over the responsibilities. I hope she knows what she's getting in to! LOL.

Re: Overindulged the grandkids.
 

Me too. She knows some about his disorganization, but I'm certain there are things he feels it is unnecessary to tell her.

Lucy, I plan to do just that. I like finding friendly places for family related discussions. I'm glad I found this site.

Re: Overindulged the grandkids.
 

Keep us updated about the grandkids

Re: Overindulged the grandkids.
 

I will do that. :)

Update!
 

Well, I posted in another part of the forum about the wedding plans so I will try not to repeat myself too much.

The Christmas fiasco has not been forgotten by me because DS all but ruined that day for me and for his own children, and for what? Interestingly, most of GD's gifts were "given" to her mother to "give to her nieces." Well it sounds like these gifts never made it to the nieces, or they all play together with them anyway.

And I know that they gave some of my grandson's stuff to his one friend from school, but when I went in GS's room last week, lo and behold one of the gifts I gave him was set up in his room. He would have even likely needed help to set it up so "somebody" must have decided he could have that gift. (It was not the "one" that he chose as his only gift he could keep from what I gave him). I was not about to ask any questions, but was happy to see he was happily playing with it.

Well, I've said it many times already, I for sure will only get the kids "one gift" for any future Christmas unless I get specific instructions from DS that I may do otherwise.

Re: Overindulged the grandkids.
 

Actions speak louder than words. Perhaps he had a softening of the heart?

Re: Overindulged the grandkids.
 

Or maybe his fiancée; like I said, I'm not going to bring it up or discuss it, but I'm glad they get to play with some of what I got them. He still really spoiled an otherwise lovely Christmas though.